“If you suddenly and unexpectedly feel joy,” writes the poet Mary Oliver, “don’t hesitate. Give in to it.”

Gratitude

By Melody Beattie

Say thank you until you mean it.

Thank God, life, and the universe for everyone and everything sent your way.

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life.  It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity.  It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.  It turns problems into gifts, failures into successes, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events.  It can turn an existence into a real life, and disconnected situations into important and beneficial lessons.  Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow

Gratitude makes things right.

Gratitude turns negative energy into positive energy.  There is no situation or circumstance so small or large that it is not susceptible to gratitude’s power.  We can start with who we are and what we have today, apply gratitude, then let it work its magic.

Say thank you, until you mean it. If you say it long enough, you will believe it.

Faith is being so sure of what the Spirit has whispered in your heart that your belief in its eventuality is unshakeable. -John Lewis

This week I share an excellent reflective article on gratitude and generosity. I find it especially relevant as we head into Thanksgiving soon. Blessings on your week ahead!

Gratitude Leads to Generosity

By Vinita Hampton Wright

woman with flowers - photo by Remi Yuan on Unsplash

When we develop an outlook of gratitude, we train ourselves to perceive the world in terms of abundance rather than scarcity. I am grateful for the few moments of rest I had today between appointments. I could just as easily be resentful about the rest I could not have because today was a workday, and I had to get out of bed and get busy. Which way will I see my day?

Do I perceive myself with gratitude? Do I give thanks for my experiences and the gifts and abilities that have grown because of those experiences? Or do I hunger after the experiences of other people, disappointed at what has not happened to me?

Gratitude is a response to my belief that my life is enough. It’s not perfect, and it’s not finished, but it is good and worthy of my thanksgiving. My life has potential. My life contains all kinds of gifts. What if I don’t have the gifts that this other person has? Will I obsess over that? Or will I simply rejoice with her?

It’s not difficult to see how gratitude leads to generosity. If life is abundance and not scarcity, then I can afford to be generous to others. If there is enough success in the universe for every person to experience a bit of it, then I can be free to help others succeed rather than focus only on my own seeking for success.

If I believe that each person is made in the Divine image, then I can worry less about how much my image matches someone else’s. I can enjoy the beauty of others without being envious.

If I believe that God continues to create my life, day by day, and continues to give graces with lavish love, then I can “afford” to accompany other people in the creation of their lives. I can share in their happiness when they receive gifts and graces.

Gratitude and generosity coexist within us. We cannot nurture one without building up the other. Each quality shapes our mindset about and our posture toward being in this world. Resentment and selfishness grow in an environment of fear, unfreedom, and the perception that there is not enough—of anything—for everyone. Gratitude and generosity grow in an environment of faith and freedom. These virtues are honest responses to a world that brims over with God’s love for us.

If we truly believe that God surrounds us, we believe that prayer is an everyday experience of being alive…. When you step outside and engage with the world in quiet listening, prayer will happen, and it will take on its own way of being for you.—Kaitlin Curtice

Last night I drove my kids to San Jose to see my hometown Philadelphia Flyers play against the Sharks. I was raised as a big ice hockey fan, and I am proud to pass along that enthusiasm to my children. Although the Flyers lost, we enjoyed this annual ritual yet again. Simply sitting still together for several hours felt relaxing!

Many of this week’s Gospel readings focus on the invitational aspect of Jesus’ ministry. Some refer to these stories as Jesus’ table fellowship. Often Jesus explicitly invites the outcast, the downtrodden, and the marginalized to join him for a meal. This public invitation was counter-cultural, and likely contributed to Jesus’ execution. Jesus’ example informs my own vision of heaven, where each and every person is welcome and treated as an honored guest. This inclusive feast will one day be realized in the Kingdom of God.

The danger of privilege is that we can tell ourselves we’ve opened our tables when we really haven’t. We’ve changed some rules; we’ve donated to some charities; we’ve stoped telling some jokes. But these things are not nearly enough. The challenge and opportunity for those of us with privilege is to realize that no matter how much we work to invite others to the table, ‘there is still room’ for more.” – Nick Wagner

Together let us be grateful for the privilege of life. Enjoy the quote below and a Tiny Desk concert from one of my favorite blues artists. Blessings on your week ahead!

Gratitude is more than a reflex ‘thank you’ when someone holds a door for you. Gratitude is a spiritual practice that embraces life’s tension-flexing web of relationships and actions, like those that occur every day, all through the day.” -Tim Joy, Lasallian Colleague

Life has a way of tenderizing you. -David Brooks

This morning on my early walk I encountered a fellow walker, who described how his activity first thing each morning alleviates some of the pain caused by his Parkinson’s disease. I listened with admiration as I marveled at his perspective. He expressed deep gratitude for the gift of his daily walk, and for me that similar sentiment was magnified by my interaction with him, a perfect stranger up to that point. I am blessed.

Yesterday my wife shared with me a wonderful lesson from a podcast we follow together. In a recent episode of We Can Do Hard Things, Brigid learned of key qualities of healthy relationships…they are:

  • Stable
  • Positive
  • Reciprical

I thought to myself, “What a powerful approach to forging and sustaining friendships!”

Then last night my YouTube algorithm populated my feed with this fantastic Tiny Desk concert. Enjoy the soul-filled funk as you work, exercise, or meditate. Blessings on your week ahead!

Let us open wide our hearts. It is joy which invites us. Press forward and fear nothing. -St. Katharine Drexel

Today I enjoyed reading this interview here with Sr. Stephanie Henry. I am learning more about her religious order, the Sisters of the Blessed Sacrament. Below is an impressive excerpt from her comments:

“We are called to open our hearts to God and to other people. God is inviting us to joy. Responding to God and caring for others brings joy. When we have open hearts filled with God’s love, we can move into the future with compassion and mercy for all we encounter. There is no need to be overwhelmed by fear. We are not alone.”

I also viewed one of my favorite Pearl Jam songs, “Elderly Woman Behind the Counter in a Small Town.” Singer Eddie Vedder’s range is powerful. Enjoy and blessings on your week ahead!

It takes time and intention to recongize the generosity of God in everyday signs of wonder and beauty. -Kathy Hendricks

I appreciate this time each year when life (finally) feels like we’re settling into a groove…at home we have had just enough weeks of consistent afterschool sports practices, combined with enough time with our kids getting to know new teachers…to feel like we (sort of) have things together. Yesterday my daughter marveled at the teamwork of the construction crew working together on our backyard remodel…while my youngest son researched Halloween costumes…and my oldest son provided insightful commentary on Bob Marley’s rhythm section while listening to music as he completed his homework. I cherish these moments at home amidst a full work travel schedule for me throughout this fall.

Bob Marley- Three Little Birds (Everything’s Gonna Be All Right)

I am happy to share this link to a refreshing reminder to “Savor the Season,” in what we notice and how we spend our time. Below is the list excerpted from the reflection. Blessings on your week ahead!

  • Choose a favorite place to walk or sit—perhaps a path through the woods, a bench in the park, or a comfortable spot in your home.
  • Grab a warm beverage.
  • Turn off your phone.
  • Shelve your “To Do” list for the moment.
  • Using your five senses, take stock of the gifts of the present moment.
  • Breathe deeply. How does the air feel filling your lungs?
  • Look around you. What catches your eye?
  • What do you hear?
  • Are there any distinctive scents in this moment?
  • How is that cup of coffee or tea?
  • What do you feel as you encounter this moment?
  • What gifts are you noticing?
  • Linger in this moment.
  • Savor the Love that is creating this moment and all that it holds.
  • What would you like to say to the One who is breathing life into this moment?

Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible. -Francis of Assisi

This past weekend our family attended the Hardly Strictly Bluegrass festival in Golden Gate Park. This free annual event is a San Francisco treasure. I am pleased to share a performance by artist Leyla McCalla, who we were introduced to on Saturday. I also share some prayer resources that have come my way recently.

Blessings on your week ahead!

Excerpt from “House of Hospitality” and “From Union Square to Rome”

Dorothy Day

People say, “What good can one person do? What is the sense of our small effort?” They cannot see that we must lay one brick at a time. We can be responsible only for the one action of the present moment. But we can beg for an increase of love in our hearts that will vitalize and transform all our individual actions and know that God will take them and multiply them, as Jesus multiplied the loaves and the fishes. Do what comes to hand. Whatsoever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might. After all, God is with us. It shows too much conceit to trust to ourselves, to be discouraged at what we ourselves can accomplish. It is lacking in faith in God to be discouraged. After all, we are going to proceed with His help. We offer Him what we are going to do. If He wishes it to prosper, it will. We must depend solely on Him. Work as though everything depended on ourselves, and pray as though everything depended on God, as St. Ignatius says.

Genius is in the idea. Impact comes from action. -Simon Sinek

Last week I was privileged to enjoy time in the New Orleans area with our school leaders. Learning and growing alongside them is one of the best parts of my job. Speaking of learning, last night I played my guitar for the first time in a while and I learned a new chord configuration…thirty years in, part of the joy I experience with this hobby is how never-ending the learning curve is. That’s a nice metaphor for life.

Today I share two articles that have informed my thinking in the past week. Nine Ways to Fill Your Cup When You’re Running on Empty reminded me of the importance of staying grounded, especially during this busy fall season with my kids’ schools and our work commitments. Listening with Franciscan Ears is a nod to both my passion for music and also my appreciation for the example of Saint Francis of Assisi. Happy early feast of Saint Francis (October 4).

Last night my son and I heard this song, “Winding Roads,” for the first time on our way home from soccer practice. It’s authors are among some of my favorites, with the last names of Marley, Weir and Johnson. You can read more about their creative process here:

Stephen Marley Discusses Bob Weir And Jack Johnson Collaboration ‘Winding Roads’.

Enjoy and blessings on your week ahead!

On The Fine Art of Weeding- Christine Rodgers

The further in you go

the more you prune away

the thicker it grows back.

Such diligence required

to keep a path

cleared for God.

Today’s Gospel reading from Luke speaks for itself. Jesus provides such a meaningful framework for life and relationships in this teaching. Blessings on your week ahead!

The Beatitudes

20 And he lifted up his eyes on his disciples, and said:

“Blessed are you who are poor, for yours is the kingdom of God.

21 “Blessed are you who are hungry now, for you shall be satisfied.

“Blessed are you who weep now, for you shall laugh.

22 “Blessed are you when people hate you and when they exclude you and revile you and spurn your name as evil, on account of the Son of Man! 23 Rejoice in that day, and leap for joy, for behold, your reward is great in heaven; for so their fathers did to the prophets.

24 “But woe to you who are rich, for you have received your consolation.

25 “Woe to you who are full now, for you shall be hungry.

“Woe to you who laugh now, for you shall mourn and weep.

26 “Woe to you, when all people speak well of you, for so their fathers did to the false prophets.

Love Your Enemies

27 “But I say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 

28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you. 

29 To one who strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also, and from one who takes away your cloak do not withhold your tunic[b] either. 

30 Give to everyone who begs from you, and from one who takes away your goods do not demand them back. 

31 And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them.

Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you. -Anne Lamott

This past weekend my family and I escaped to the beach with three other families, as part of a Labor Day tradition where we’ve had the blessing to witness each of our ten total children grow in their relationships with one another, and in their appreciation for the beautiful setting of Cailfornia’s Central Coast. There were multiple nights of campfires, guitar music and singalongs, and a beautiful experience of community and belonging. Thank God for family, friendships, and nature…and the privilege of time away.

I am pleased to share Dave Matthews’ recent tribute to Jimmy Buffet, along with a powerful poem on journey and voice by Mary Oliver. Blessings on your week ahead!

Mary Oliver
The Journey
One day you finally knew what you had to do, and began,
though the voices around you kept shouting their bad advice —
though the whole house began to tremble and you felt the old tug at your ankles. “Mend my life!” each voice cried. But you didn’t stop.
You knew what you had to do,
though the wind pried with its stiff fingers at the very foundations,
though their melancholy was terrible.
It was already late enough, and a wild night,
and the road full of fallen branches and stones.
But little by little, as you left their voice behind,
the stars began to burn through the sheets of clouds,
and there was a new voice which you slowly recognized as your own,
that kept you company as you strode deeper and deeper into the world,
determined to do the only thing you could do —
determined to save the only life that you could save.