“Women belong in all places where decisions are being made.” -Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg

What a week this has been! Time flew by in my household. We spent lots of time focused on learning at home and enjoying the outdoors with activities like biking, hiking and walking, while also attempting to juggle the demands of our jobs. Friday has taken on new meaning now that my family is five weeks into distance learning…we are all so wiped out and look forward to down time over the weekend.

This week marked some new professional growth for me in learning how to facilitate a Zoom webinar. The topic of “Race, Equity and Leadership” could not be more relevant and timely. I appreciate the support and collaboration from my colleagues, and look forward to hosting more webinars in service to the educators of our Lasallian District.

Below are some resources I shared earlier in the week with our school leaders. I hope they can serve as a source for reflection throughout the weekend ahead. In her inspiring rendition of “Underdog” below, Alicia Keyes reminds us of the strength of our resilience. And the Chant version of Dan Schutte’s “Here I am Lord” provides a beautiful contemplative version of this classic song. The below quote from tennis great Arthur Ashe invites us to pace ourselves:

“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” Arthur Ashe

Take a break if you can. We all deserve one!

Underdog

Here I am, Lord

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“Be still and know that I am God.” -Psalm 46:10

In my daily morning reading of Max Lucado’s God is With You Every Day, I found this above quote from the Book of Psalms to be reassuring and grounding, especially as I now prepare to head into the weekend. I look forward to unplugging and “being still.”

This morning I attended webinar entitled “The Role of Mental Health in Education and Leadership.” Facilitators Angela Rowe McDonald, Ph.D., LCMHCS, NCC, Dean of the School of Health Studies and Education at Saint Joseph’s University, and Jabari Whitehead, Ed.D. ‘17, Principal of Chatham Park Elementary School in Haverford School District are depicted above. Together they emphasized the need for resources and efforts to be focused upon the social emotional health of all currently participating in the field of education. I could not agree more. I worry about the pace at home, the demands upon teachers and school leaders, and the strain on all involved, children especially. The concept of schools as communities has never been as important as it is today.

A Spirituality of the Present Moment acknowledges how Saint Ignatius of Loyola practiced the art of finding God in all things. The author noted how Ignatius “tasted the joy of God’s presence” throughout his life. May each of us experience this same joy in the weekend ahead. Stay healthy and safe.

“After years of being taught that the way to deal with painful emotions is to get rid of them, it can take a lot of re-schooling to learn to sit with them instead.” – Barbara Brown Taylor

In a meeting with school leaders earlier this week, I acknowledged the extreme duress facing school leaders, educators and parents with children learning at home, along with the physical suffering endured by so many others. Uncertainty, ongoing changes, and exhaustion are common. I reminded them that we are in the longest marathon of our lives, and spoke to the significance of prayer, exercise, community and mental health. One of this week’ s opinion columns from the New York Times places these tensions in contrast with the reality of how long life will be different: Stop Expecting Life to Go Back to Normal Next Year.

While the current climate disasters, racial injustice, and pandemic crises can feel all-consuming at times, I strive to focus on that which is good. Daily I try to recognize the blessings God grants me. Today I am so proud of my kids for their resilience throughout distance learning, I appreciate their teachers and school community, and I am so grateful to be able to open my windows for fresh air. I have taken a walk with my family during both breaks of the day thus far, and look forward to our next one after dinner.

Breaking down next steps in manageable portions is key for me these days. I’m looking ahead to a couple more calls, catching up on some emails, and then helping my kids with their homework. The picture depicted above is a sign that I passed by today in my neighborhood- it’s a nice reminder to you, too!

“If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.” -Saint Teresa of Calcutta

At this mid-September point, let us keep the educators and families we serve in our thoughts. As these weeks of the new academic year turn into months, I trust that the strength of our school communities will provide the support we need. I can attest to the long days encountering all of us, and also the need for us to tend to the spiritual social-emotional needs of the young entrusted to our care. Yesterday my family went outdoors for the first time in days and our 20 minute walk with our dog felt like a blissful eternity. Over the weekend I also read this quote aloud to my wife from the book I recently re-read:

“To be teacher or parent is to be a special instrument of God’s grace in learners’ lives. Ultimately, to educate is God’s own work.” -Thomas Groome, Educating for Life

I hope that each of us finds our place in God’s work throughout these turbulent times. May God make each of us a channel of God’s peace. I found the child’s voice in this rendition of The Prayer of Saint Francis to be an inspiration, and I pray to the intercession of the patron of my city for the healing that God’s creation needs at this time.  

We Hold the Earth

We hold brothers and sisters who suffer from storms and droughts intensified by climate change.

We hold all species that suffer.

We hold world leaders delegated to make decisions for life.

We pray that the web of life may be mended through courageous actions to limit carbon emissions.

We pray for right actions for adaptation and mitigation to help our already suffering earth community.

We pray that love and wisdom might inspire my actions and our actions as communities. . .

so that we may, with integrity, look into the eyes of brothers and sisters and all beings and truthfully

say, we are doing our part to care for them and the future of the children.

May love transform us and our world with new steps toward life.

Blessings on your week ahead and special prayers for all those battling illness, wildfires, hurricanes or injustice. 

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“Lord, take me where You want me to go; let me meet who You want me to meet; tell me what You want me to say, and keep me out of Your way.” – Fr. Mychal Judge, OFM, NYFD Chaplain

In this thought provoking piece, I Need You to Care That Our Country Is on Fire, journalist Charlie Warzel makes a compelling case for the urgent need to address climate change. At times I find it difficult not to despair around this issue, especially given that I have been unable to go outdoors for days due to the toxic air quality. The West Coast is on fire, and I am concerned for countless loved ones, colleagues and for those who are simply my neighbors by virtue of our shared humanity.

On this anniversary of the tragic events of September 11, 2001, I found this prayer from the Sisters of Mercy to be a source of comfort:

“We remember all that was lost to us that day: our sense of security, our peace, our innocence, our belief that we were safe beyond such random violence and death. Most of all we remember those who died in New York, Washington, DC, and Pennsylvania, their lives of promise extinguished in hatred.

We trace the movement of your grace through those among us who risked their lives to save others. We are comforted by those who offered kindness to persons in distress, and by those who would not let hatred overcome love. For those whose witness to a deeper wisdom and faith comforted us, we give you thanks.

Today I pray for our world leaders. I pray for peace. And I pray for the safety and well-being of all.

“The current pandemic has highlighted our interdependence; we are linked to each other, for better or for worse. Therefore, to come out of this crisis better than before, we have to do so together, all of us, in solidarity.” – Pope Francis

Over the weekend we celebrated another of our children’s birthdays. We Facetimed with family, played games in our basement, and celebrated being together. The air cleared enough for us to spend an afternoon at a park with friends. Witnessing our kids running around and laughing was a gift in and of itself. 

This week marks the “return” of all students to the new academic year at the schools in our Lasallian District. We are continuing to learn new and creative ways to practice our Lasallian community and sense of hospitality, whether it be virtually, in a hybrid fashion, or with adherence to distancing norms. While the physical safety and well-being of all is foundational to all approaches, tending to the spiritual and mental health of our students- and educators- is critical as well.   

This reflection – I Believe by Lothar Zenetti– was shared as a prayer last week, and I am pleased to pass it along to you. It reminds us to practice gratitude while recognizing the presence of God. I invite you to take five minutes to focus and view it, for St. John Baptist De La Salle  wrote: “The remembrance of God’s presence will be a great advantage in helping you and in inspiring you to do all your actions well” (Letter 2).

I hope that the poem and song below, and the articles that follow, inform your leadership this week.


For One Who Is Exhausted, a Blessing

John O’Donohue, SJ (From To Bless the Space Between Us: A Book of Blessings)

When the rhythm of the heart becomes hectic,
Time takes on the strain until it breaks;
Then all the unattended stress falls in
On the mind like an endless, increasing weight.

The light in the mind becomes dim.
Things you could take in your stride before
Now become laborsome events of will.

Weariness invades your spirit.
Gravity begins falling inside you,
Dragging down every bone.

The tide you never valued has gone out.
And you are marooned on unsure ground.
Something within you has closed down;
And you cannot push yourself back to life.

You have been forced to enter empty time.
The desire that drove you has relinquished.
There is nothing else to do now but rest
And patiently learn to receive the self
You have forsaken in the race of days.

At first your thinking will darken
And sadness take over like listless weather.
The flow of unwept tears will frighten you.

You have traveled too fast over false ground;
Now your soul has come to take you back.

Take refuge in your senses, open up
To all the small miracles you rushed through.

Become inclined to watch the way of rain
When it falls slow and free.

Imitate the habit of twilight,
Taking time to open the well of color
That fostered the brightness of day.

Draw alongside the silence of stone
Until its calmness can claim you.
Be excessively gentle with yourself.

Stay clear of those vexed in spirit.
Learn to linger around someone of ease
Who feels they have all the time in the world.

Gradually, you will return to yourself,
Having learned a new respect for your heart
And the joy that dwells far within slow time.

Burna Boy – Medley

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Formation happens more through relationships than individual dispositions or actions; we are what we repeatedly do together. For this reason, we have to be intentional about integrating self-care and mental health into our relationships as families, friends and communities for work, school or worship.

“Love is at the root of everything. All learning. All parenting. All relationships. Love, or the lack of it.” -Mr. Rogers

This week I have been reflecting upon love in action. The need to act. And our Gospel call to serve.

On a daily basis, I witness countless acts of servant leadership among the school leaders, educators and Trustees with whom I work. Across the country, these individuals are continually adapting to ever-changing guidelines, expectations and realities. I am inspired by these schools’ commitments to their kids, to safety and to the well-being of all.

And at home, as parents we navigate the delicate balance of keeping our children informed of today’s conditions, while also striving to protect them from some systemic injustices that unfortunately continue to confront society. This is where I feel my faith called into action. By modeling participation in our democratic process, and by participating in community alongside my family, I actually feel that I can make a difference. Dialogue around these issues is important in our household…we don’t have many of the answers, but we ask the questions together.

And then sometimes in the middle of these meaningful exchanges, it’s only a matter of time before I hear “Dad!” from the next room when someone needs Chromebook support. Lucky me- I am with my family and we are healthy. We will figure everything else out in time.

Blessings on the weekend ahead.

“It takes all types to make the world. Sometimes you wish it didn’t.” – Novelist Gloria Naylor

In today’s Gospel reading from Luke, following a healing miracle “at daybreak, Jesus left and went to a deserted place.” I am struck by this example, and so many other examples, from Jesus’ ministry when he sought out a quiet place to be alone and reflect. I seek these similar places in my own life, whether it be a few extra minutes lying still before getting out of bed or by spending time outdoors. This morning I give thanks for the clean air that allowed my family to take our dog on a walk before we started school/work. It’s been over a week since we have been able to be outdoors in the morning due to the toxic air from the wildfires, so it felt like a blessing.

In Three Ways Administrators Can Nurture Teacher Growth autonomy, competency and connectedness are emphasized for supporting instructional success. Especially in our remote learning reality, supporting these aspects of teaching and learning are critical for our school and home communities. In our communities, there are all kinds of teachers and students; as educational leaders, our responsibility is to each and every one. Let’s take a cue from Jesus to ensure that we are creating the time and space in our lives to reflect upon just how we can do this: meet the needs of all educators and students entrusted to our care.

“We can look upon the face of anyone or anything around us and say- as a moral declaration and a spiritual, cosmological, and biological fact: You are a part of me I do not yet know.” -Valarie Kaur

This weekend my family played “Reverse Charades” while indoors due to the wildfires. We also enjoyed late afternoon hikes once the air quality improved, thanks to the end of day breeze from the ocean. We enjoyed superhero movies on “Marvel Mondays” during the summer; I had planned to discontinue this practice due to the screen time impact of distance learning….yet tonight we will watch Black Panther. Rest In Peace, Chadwick Boseman, the actor who passed away unexpectedly on Friday. Here’s his 2018 advice to graduates of Howard University; On the Importance of Purpose. Powerful stuff.

The tragic injustice, social unrest and violence in cities like Kenosha, WI and Portland, OR once again invite us to increase our efforts toward anti-racism and equality. I hope and pray that these challenges facing our communities of color, in particular, provide us the impetus to empathize, learn and change

Last week I began listening to classical music while I worked, as one buffer against the constant influx of inputs- Zoom meetings, emails, phone calls, technology support for my kids, etc. It is my sincere belief that finding healthy avenues of release for each of us- exercise, meditation, music and other means- will sustain us throughout the ups and downs of today’s world. Yesterday I started a new book as another practice that feeds my spirit.  

This quote from Saint John Baptist De La Salle reminds us of the need to nurture ourselves in order to best serve others:

“Act in such a way through your zeal that you give tangible proof that you love those whom God has entrusted to you.” (MD 201.2)

Let us count our blessings and also pray for all those who are struggling. You are in my prayers. Enjoy the day ahead.

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“I need y’all to do more than just hear me right now. I need y’all to FEEL me.” -Renee Montgomery

This week’s protests by professional athletes have drawn even greater attention to the urgent need for reform in support of racial equity. The African American community in the United States deserves better. Their experience of daily life is an unjust one that demands change.

And so I was proud of all my favorite teams- here in San Francisco and back where I grew up in Philadelphia- for taking a stand. I read this article yesterday which placed this emerging movement among athletes in greater context: One N.B.A. Team Walked Out. A Generation of Athletes Followed. In reading it, I learned about Renee Montgomery of the WNBA, whose inspiring example speaks to her commitment to making a difference.

Bruce Springsteen’s Born to Run album was released 45 years ago this week. He has been one of my favorite musicians for nearly the entirity of my life. Enjoy this 1992 rendition of Thunder Road. With these lyrics, the Boss reminds us to “Show a little faith, there’s magic in the night.”

Blessings on your weekend ahead.